Major lesson learnt today…
DO YOU BOO! FIGHT TO DO YOU, EVEN AT THE RISK OF LOOKING UN-LADYLIKE.
People, we have got to stop this crazy obsession with trying to be an uncaring someone’s One&Only, pet student, pet employee, ‘woman’, ‘wifey’ etc. to the detriment of your humanity, self worth, MONEY, destiny and life.
I get it. I really do. Everyone wants and needs love (in all its varieties). But, we’re sacrificing our destinies and major life moments trying to be the good girl who wouldn’t dare overstep her boundaries at the risk pissing off Mr Bad Boy, Mr Boss Man, Society, or Daddy.
Let me tell you from my newly acquired life experience, you get screwed over big time being that big an idiot. The very person in whose hands you foolishly place your career, love life, your intellect, dreams and very existence will have no qualms with carelessly aborting God moments of providence that come your way in the boardroom, bedroom and world!
And why should they care. Your life isn’t their own. Your success will not be theirs. Your suppression and regression are the very foot stool on which their ego is boosted.
Take it from me. If you believe in you, if you have a dream life or, brain-child you’re willing to fight for just put the gloves on, get a little elbow grease going and get it out there your damn self.
And if that uncaring someone promises rainbows and ponies, fact check! Background scan! Face the reality of their beliefs, behaviour, how they conduct life! When someone shows you who they are, believe them. Most importantly, tell them to F off so you can get about the business of manifesting it all yourself.
Life is short folks. Nobody has the time get played; Jedi mind tricked or made a fool of!
We live on a planet that is 40,075KMs in circumference, 12,756KMs in diameter and occupied by over 7.125 billion people who make up an assortment of cultures, lifestyles, ideologies and life situations.
Please educate yourself baby.
Get some perspective, get a clue and get your life.
Build your business / industry acumen (I mean street smart acumen not that industry best practice or, text book crap), read, study culture, question beliefs and traditions, focus on making your dreams a reality, expand your understanding of God and yourself and realise that you actually do know what’s best for you. Some of us are just dumb enough to lay down and let who they could’ve been die in order to blindly fall for another’s opinions, approval, lies and constricting main stream rules based own insecurity.
Men are not from Mars and Women aren’t from Venus. Stay out of that stupid conversation. Don’t generalise. Take it on individual basis.
You don’t need to Learn 10 Ways to Rock His World (what about yours!); nor master 10 Ways to Get and Keep A Man. There’s no formula to finding and maintaining love. Plus, it’s different strokes for different folks 😉
When it comes to singledom and marriage; No one thing is better than the other. Both have their ups and downs. Whether, or, not Mr/Mrs right is in your life, the question is are you living to your fullest potential in all areas of your life?
Billion dollar industries are being built off the back of making you an insecure, subservient, approval seeking dummy. They build up the lies and over exaggerated ideas that there’s something fundamentally wrong with a woman as a human being if she’s single, single and past a certain age, a single black woman, a single mother, assertive, a career oriented person, a virgin, loves sex, bothers to show a man how much she cares/ loves him, or, isn’t a twerking, acrobatic nymphomaniac that looks exactly like Rihanna (who by the way doesn’t actually exist. Ask Robin).
And by the way, few will ever tell the truth of how they got that man or woman. It really isn’t that black and white. Some will meet on that “boy meets girl – love at first sight” tip. For the remaining 99.9% it’s messy with a lot of grey areas. Ask our mothers and great grandmothers of old. It was all raging hormones, forbidden love, religion, gun short weddings, teen pregnancies, manipulation, adultery, love triangles, heart break and dumb luck.
I’m not saying act the fool. But, I am saying get some perspective, simply try to do the best that you can, with your head on straight and handle your business like an ivy-league CEO.
Your life is in your hands.
Live large, live well and be your own true north.
I got you, and I hope you got my back too.
Yours truly and passionately
Amp_Ire (as in “empire” but louder!)
p.s. Here’s some food for thought for next time….
“THE WOMAN WHO INVENTED THE PHRASE ALL MEN ARE THE SAME WAS A CHINESE WOMAN WHO LOST HER HUSBAND IN CHINA.”